

This keeps him from having healthy relationships with other women. Paul’s unhappily married mother chooses him to be her closest confidant.Lawrence’s first great novel, scandalized the public and established his reputation as an erotic writer. In this early 20th century masterpiece, the author described the effect of emotional alienation, broken dreams, borderline incestuous motherly love and repressed sexuality in a way that still resonates today – if only because we all can’t help being more or less damaged ourselves. Yet none of that addresses his fundamental points.


Today some scholars snub their noses at him for being a reactionary misogynist. Many of his contemporaries were aghast at the brutal realities and sexual liberties he described. In 1926, he wrote to a friend: “We can’t help being more or less damaged.” Sons and Lovers is his mostly autobiographical account of the damage done to him by an overbearing mother and underwhelming father, but also the damage he did to the women he engaged with. Lawrence remembered that his mother would collect him and his siblings to tell them spiteful horror stories about their father.
